5 Things to Drive Him Crazy for You

Feel lonely and depressed?  Got the “it’s Mother’s Day I am ra5 Things to Drive Him Crazy for You ising these kids by myself” blues? Are you the sister that has a decent job but no kids, no man, and never got married? Are you a separated, divorced or widowed woman, and feeling lonely? Are you celibate by choice, but would love to have a warm body next to you after a hard day’s work? Do you have that guy who won’t commit, does not call you as often as you’d like, won’t send you flowers, or give you that affection that you need? If you said 

yes to any of these questions…keep reading!

The pressures of life too often get in way of love. You want love, but between kids, grandkids, work, exercise, church, and the bills, the last thing you want to do is chase a man. You want him to see you for your mind and all of your good qualities.  Getting him is half the battle.  Keeping you and him happy for the long haul, is winning the war.  If you want a man than that thinks about you throughout the day, can’t wait to see you after work, and answers your calls right away, clip-out these tips and keep them in a safe place for a rainy or lonely day.

Know, learn, and study him. If you know what he likes, encourage him, and support him in his endeavors to help grow your love. You don’t want to act like you know more about him than he knows about himself. But if he is working on a major project, entering into a business deal or suffering from a major illness, you should know.  Can you tell when he is happy, excited, ill or depressed? Ask questions like, “How do you feel?” “How is your health?” “How was your day?” “How is work or the business going?”

Be his trusted friend and partner. There is saying called “pillow talk”. If your man or husband isn’t comfortable sharing his secrets and ambitions with you for whatever reason, that’s a major barrier. You need to assure him that you are his confidant. If he is not telling you his fears, wants and dreams, he is confiding in someone else! Talk with him, and figure out what is the best way to communicate. Even if you know how he feels, or know what he is about to say, listen and give a slight head nod of comfort and compassion.

Dress to impress. When you first met, you wore that one special outfit a few times to keep a smile on his face.  You don’t have to buy new clothes to look sexy and appealing to put that sparkle in his eyes.  Get out of the emotional, work, and/or relationship slump and go back to the basics.  On your next visit to church, a movie, or dinner, wear something nice. He will probably say something silly like, “Why are you looking and smelling so good?” Whether we are at work, play, or home, we must continually re-invent ourselves.  Like you re-arrange your furniture in the house, add new accessories to an old dress, or get a new pair of glasses or hair style.  Remind him directly and with carefully selected fashion choices that you are the woman of his dreams.

Have more fun together. Even in a bad economy, when bills are high and cash is low, find things to do that don’t cost a lot of money.  Try something you wouldn’t normally do, such as playing cards together, renting a movie, buying massage oil, going out for drinks, cooking dinner for one another, going to the cultural center, zoo, or park. There are literally hundreds of free things to do each week. A night out on the town for a free concert, poetry readings, lectures, or church events are just a few examples of budget-friendly activities to share. Volunteering at places like the Central City Café or the City Mission, planting a tree, or exercising together can grow the love bug.  All work and no play can be unhealthy for your relationship.

Romance, Romance, Romance. They say women express themselves through words and emotion. Unfortunately, most men express themselves physically. So shutting down intimacy is not the answer. In fact, many relationship experts suggest that many couples go weeks and even months without sex. If you are suffering from stress, illness, low self-esteem or sexual boredom, talk about it with your partner. You don’t want him drifting off because he believes you are not attracted to him anymore.  Sisters, we live in a sex-crazed society. We can’t make excuses for men and other women, and let’s not send a hungry man shopping at the supermarket (that applies to work, play, and church too).

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